After being away from real internet for the past 11 days, I returned to find the typical couple dozen Facebook friend requests. Here's the breakdown:
- Totally random/unknown people: 8 - Random/unknown diving or photo people: 5 - Random/unknown Sea Shepherd fans: 4 - Personal friends: 2 - Known dive/photo acquaintances: 1 - People known only virtually: 1
In this case, I accepted 4 of them, but I had to think about accepting the virtual acquaintance. In this case, she passed the test.
My Facebook "friend" list is really a list of acquaintances, and although my bar for connecting is rather low, I still Ignore at least 5 people for every one that I accept. It's nothing personal.
My bar for Facebook "friendship":
If you are someone I ...
1. ... know in person, we've spent time together in real life, and I have a neutral or better feeling. 2. ... have never met, we have had significant dealings virtually over an extended period of time, and I'm sure you are a real person. 3. ... totally don't recognize, then I must be a big fan of you or your work.
I also have no qualms about de-friending people, although the amount of offense it takes to be removed is directly proportional to how well I know the person and how long I've known them. My Facebook page is not a public space, and I choose to make it a place that I enjoy.
My Twitter friend criteria is much more complicated. Twitter is very useful as infrastructure, but I find it to be poorly conceived and potentially intrusive as a community. As a result, I choose to keep the list I follow short, and even close friends may be excluded if our update styles are not compatible.